Why I Write Letters to People Who Usually Don’t Respond It's really about wonder. And about the secrets surrounding a mother, her child, and the relinquishment and adoption that followed More
But, Hey, At Least We Got Some Statistics The lesson from the court's opinion is clear. And it is a lesson adoptees have to learn and relearn all the time, whether implicitly or explicitly: seek reunion and you shall lose. More
The Name of the Adoptee Shall Henceforth Be Fixed More than fifty years ago, a court order created me as adoptee and made adoptive parents out of a suburban Maryland couple. It did other things as well. More
From Clean to Dirty to Dead It's time to kill the Missouri 'adoptee rights' bill. It's time to talk candidly with the sponsor, who is an adoptee, to figure out how to fight a different fight another day. More
Will Secrecy See Its Demise? If all goes well, we may soon see one of the first hearings ever in Washington DC on the issue of whether alleged birth parent secrecy trumps an adoptee's right to vital records. More
The Second Step Toward Denial If you think you are entitled to your own vital birth records, then let us construct a byzantine system that disabuses you of such a sentiment. More
Our Own Book of Questions In our family's Book of Questions, we pose and write down questions but leave them permanently unanswered. Why? Simple curiosity. More
Yeah, That ‘Hit Piece’ I Did on Bastard Nation I wanted to touch on a few things that I found wanting among some adoption activist groups, and even (gasp) voice disagreement. The blowback was intense. More
So, What Happens to Adoptees “Left Behind?” What exactly is a full-blown strategy that includes the reality of adoptees left behind? More
Minnesota’s Bill: Good, Bad, or Just Different? Does the current Minnesota adoptee rights bill make the really unfair, well, slightly less unfair? Or maybe it's "just different." More
